Being in a relationship means constantly negotiating between yours and your partner's needs, desires and expectations. Those may change or evolve within time, new events and transitions might lead to disagreements, fights, feelings of disconnection, inability to communicate and even affairs.
In crisis situations, partners are hurting, trying to change each other or at the edge of giving up on each other. The most prominent feelings are disappointment, frustration, sadness, fear and anger. Other couples avoid conflicts and an atmosphere of alienation, silence, and disconnection overwhelms their relationship.
The recognition of each other’s emotional needs and difficulties that underlie the behavioral patterns would be the first step to interrupt the cycle of hurt and pain.
If you and your partner are experiencing difficulties, the help of a psychotherapist may improve communication, helping you to talk and listen to each other in a positive, caring, and productive way.
HOW DOES COUPLES PSYCHOTHERAPY WORK?
Similarly to individual psychotherapy, during the first few sessions, we will be getting a better sense of what is going on by exploring your relationship history as well as the current issues you may be facing. From there, I will be able to make recommendations on how to move forward.
SHOULD WE BOTH COME TOGETHER TO OUR MEETINGS?
Yes! The focus of our work is your relationship and you both need to be present at the sessions. It is also important that your therapist is committed equally to both partners, so no secrets can be maintained between one of you and your therapist. This guarantees that you both will be equally listened to.
I see couples who are struggling with:
adaptation and relationship difficulties;
lack of communication;
bi-cultural and/or bilingual couples facing the impact of cultural differences and relocation in their relationship;
parenting or co-parenting issues;